how to save a marriage in two easy steps

#1. Acquire a babysitter.

#2. Run for the hills as soon as she comes over.

Hubbie and I had a date last night for the first time in a long, long time. We have always felt bad asking non-family members to babysit, since two boys are a lot to handle. It didn’t take long to figure out that we can’t afford to be shy; seeing your home as haven is all good and well, but a marriage needs to step out for some fresh air from time to time.

There was nothing fancy about our date night. It was perfect. We went to the MCA (free), nodded at Alfredo Jaar’s commentary on the exploitation of developing countries by industrialized nations, didn’t quite get Mike Kelley’s toy collection, ate sopping mouthfuls of perfectly spiced Italian beef, and chased that with a couple cups of classic Chicago.

We were only gone for a couple hours before we couldn’t wait to get back to the boys…funny how it all works like that. Our plan is to follow the steps above and lather, rinse, repeat as necessary. Really, it does wonders for the marriage soul.

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5 responses to “how to save a marriage in two easy steps

  1. mamajo3304

    It’s the simple things like just being together that helps to keep a marriage going. My husband and I have been married for 20 yrs (met in high school) we have a standing lunch date every week since we are now on opposite shifts and I will tell you it has worked wonders for us 🙂

  2. I wish we had done this in my 20 year marriage. Fact is raising four kids kept us pretty much focused on them and just surviving in general – which we didn’t. Thanks for posting some online marriage advice that couples need to hear.

  3. Hi there — thanks for stopping by and for your kind words. I was definitely being dramatic/cheeky in my word choice, but as busy moms trying to keep all the plates spinning at once, we all feel that sense of needing to get out and just connect with our first love. I can imagine the busyness of raising four children! Thanks for sharing your story.

    Great website — definitely fills a niche in the blogworld.

  4. i couldn’t agree more!

    dating your spouse is just as, if not more, important than before you were married.

    love your blog 🙂

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